3 Cs

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"Paul, a servant of God and an apostle of Jesus Christ for the faith of God's elect and the knowledge of the truth that leads to godliness--a faith and knowledge resting on the hope of eternal life, which God, who does not lie, promised before the beginning of time, and at his appointed season he brought his word to light through the preaching entrusted to me by the command of God our Savior, to Titus, my true son in our common faith: Grace and peace from God the Father and Christ Jesus our Savior. The reason I left you in Crete was that you might straighten out what was left unfinished and appoint elders in every town, as I directed you. An elder must be blameless, the husband of but one wife, a man whose children believe and are not open to the charge of being wild and disobedient. Since an overseer is entrusted with God's work, he must be blameless--not overbearing, not quick-tempered, not given to drunkenness, not violent, not pursuing dishonest gain. Rather he must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined. He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose it." - Titus 1:1-9

A few years back I heard a speaker who told of engaging in an immoral lifestyle in his younger years. He went on to assure us that later he received Jesus Christ as his Savior. He now oversees a thriving ministry. In his talk, he described “three Cs” that should comprise intimate relationships.

He said many people rush to the first two Cs: Chemistry and Compatibility. They don’t take the time to make sure that the person with whom they’re becoming romantically involved has the third “C”: Character. Countless relationships have been shipwrecked because of the lack of this “C".

Paul asked a student named Titus to address the character of the new believers on the island of Crete. The culture there was corrupt, as were the people. So, starting with the leaders of the church, Paul described what things were needed for godly living and character. These inner qualities with outward implications included living a “blameless life,” being “faithful” to one’s spouse, not being “arrogant or quick-tempered” or “a heavy drinker, violent, or dishonest with money” (Titus 1:6-7).

Those shepherding Christ's flock were also to “love what is good,” “live wisely and just,” “live a devout and disciplined life,” and deliver “wholesome teaching” (Titus 1:8-9).

In chapter two, Paul then described character qualities that should be evident in all church members—things such as “self-control,” “sound faith,” “love,” “patience,” being “pure,” and living “wisely.”

Godly character comes as we grow in our relationship with God. Before you set sail in a romantic relationship based on just the first two “Cs,” take the time to get to know if the person to whom you’re attracted possesses the most important one: character that flows from a relationship with Jesus Christ!

What deficiencies in your character do you need to prayerfully work on? Why is it vital that the people closest to us possess godly character?

I pray that out of God’s glorious riches, He may strengthen you with power through His Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your heart through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ. Amen.
May 29 2019